Introduction
Children’s misbehavior can have various reasons. You must first identify the reason for your child’s misbehavior and then try to fix it. A physical discomfort may be the cause of this misbehavior, or it may be an educational issue and the reason for their misbehavior lies in your treatment and upbringing. By examining this action, you can apply useful solutions to modify his behavior and provide him and yourself with essential help.
Pay attention to your child’s physical condition.
Sometimes the reason for a child’s misbehavior is a physical discomfort. Some children get angry and scream very quickly when they are in pain, sick or restless, and it may be difficult to calm them down in this situation. By investigating the possibility of a physical cause and identifying it, you will fix the problem and your child’s misbehavior will also disappear.
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Pay attention to your child’s nutritional status.
Children are growing and their nutritional needs should be well met. The lack of some items in the body increases the mobility of the child , and in this case we may wonder why we do not get good results despite applying good and appropriate educational methods. For this, be sure to get help from experts.
Adjust the child’s sleep.
Most children become restless and irritable when they feel sleepy. Parents should be aware of this and do not let their child’s behavior lead to anger and restlessness. In such cases, planning a good sleep schedule and encouraging him to rest and go to sleep in good ways will solve the problem and you don’t have to worry too much.
Be a good role model for your children.
Children learn many of their behaviors from adults, even behavior that we don’t think is very important and it is unbelievable that the child has learned it so quickly. Children learn from us how to raise their problem when they are upset. Parents who show their discomfort with negative emotions and a lot of sadness, transmit the same pattern to their children. To prevent violence and misbehavior of our children, we must be calm parents.
Violent movies, cartoons and games are the cause of children’s misbehavior.
Watching violent movies, inappropriate cartoons and computer games with the effect they have on the activity of parts of the brain cause misbehavior in children. Forbid children from watching adult movies, and if other family members are going to watch such movies, it should be during the hours when the child is not at home or asleep. It is not a good solution for the child to be at home while other members are watching an exciting movie and forbidding him from watching it.
Have appropriate punishment methods.
When your child is angry and you try to calm him down with corporal punishment or other harsh punishment, not only have you not helped him, but you have made it more difficult for him the next time he throws a tantrum. has been You don’t need to use punishment to calm the child down. By trying other methods, if they don’t work, consider and implement a suitable punishment. This punishment should not be too severe, should not be physical and should not be too long. As Hazrat Ali , peace be upon him, said to a man who complained about his son’s bad behavior: Do not hit him, but be angry with him and do not prolong the anger .
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Learn your child’s language
Children are also developing linguistically and their understanding of language and speech is not as good as that of us adults. In order to have a good relationship with our child, we need to change the way we talk to him and talk at his understanding level. The Holy Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, says: A person who has a child with him should behave like a child in dealing with him. When we speak clearly, briefly and pleasantly, the tone of our voice is calm and we use the right words, we can calm down our child more easily. Of course, it is not meant to use childish words that most children use incorrectly. Parents should pronounce the words correctly, but clearly, calmly and pleasantly.
Increase the child’s self-esteem.
People with high self-esteem can control their behavior better. Even when they are in an intense emotional state. In terms of the value and dignity they attach to themselves, they are careful about their behavior and speech at all times so that their value and respect is not questioned. Ali (peace be upon him) said: “Whoever considers his self-esteem to be great and dignified, ugliness will become small and humble in front of him.” Teach our children to value themselves and respect themselves and thus help them control their behavior.
Teach your child the turtle trick.
Explain to your child what a turtle does when it feels threatened. He easily bury his head in his coat and thus protect himself. He is calm and safe in his shell. Help your child use a turtle visualization. You can practice this task several times under normal conditions so that you can easily remember it and use it when the child is upset. This method is especially useful for young children.
Help him talk in emotional situations.
Talking causes emotional discharge. Do this calmly and strengthen him by more controlling your behavior, explain your discomfort and the reason for it. Help him use appropriate sentences so that he can be discharged and there is no need for violent behavior anymore. In fact, a child’s misbehavior is done to vent his negative emotions, and if we help him with the right method, he will do this, and there will be no need for violent behavior.
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