Mothers are children’s perfectionist and identity giver
June 16, 2019 at 11:43
The university professor said:
Professor Area And University They play a fundamental and important role in perfecting people and giving identity to children.
Hojjat-ul-Islam Seyed Ahmad Mohiuddin Mirmurshidi, professor of the field and university about the impact and importance of attendance
Professor Area And University In the family center on raising children, he told Shabestan reporter: Mothers play a central role in the dynamics of children’s personality. As the patient stone of children’s problems, since pregnancy, they take responsibility for all stages of development with desire and pride and without any claims or expectations and educate their children.
Hojjatul Islam Mirmurshidi added: The role of women in the field of perfecting humans is quite clear and this is a gift that God has given them.
This professor noted: Mothers should have a plan in their lives from the beginning and take steps in the path of raising their children according to that plan, and also get help from other family members in the direction of education and share the burden of education among everyone using collective abilities.
This university professor added: The deeper the emotional connection between the mother and the child, the more suitable and lasting the role of the mother will be, the more the direct communication between the child and the mother, the more the child can benefit from the existence of the mother.
Hojjat-ul-Islam Mirmurshidi stated that successful mothers are mothers who can rule over their children’s hearts. That is, as they inject their motherly seal into their children, they should also instill their own seal in the child’s heart, because in addition to a physical relationship with their children, mothers also find another heart and lasting relationship.
In response to the question that according to the conditions of today’s societies where mothers are forced to work outside the home, are there any alternative ways to fill the void of physical presence of mothers, he said: Although the constant presence of the mother next to the child and her constant and close communication can have an effective and significant role in raising the child, but mothers can fill the gaps in their existence by using appropriate methods.
This university professor continued: Psychological studies show that some children fall asleep in the absence of their mothers with a tent that smells of their mother and feel calm and relieved, so mothers should plan when leaving the house in such a way that the child stays at home in the absence of the mother. Feel their presence.
According to him, working mothers should consider a written and oral plan for their children so that their absence is more bearable for their children.
He stated that the absence of mothers at home because they are employed has advantages for children in terms of education, he said: This causes independence, self-sufficiency and a sense of responsibility in children’s life in such a way that these characteristics may not be developed for them in long-term relationships with mothers and children, so it can be said that working mothers is very effective in making children independent.
This university professor emphasized on the identity and personality of children and added: Parents should have confidence in their children and make them understand that their children are capable beings with strong will and power in order to increase the effectiveness of their educational methods.
Hojjat-ul-Islam Mirmurshidi, referring to the father’s role in raising children, said: Father as a leader and supporter has a very decisive role in raising children. In a joint life, when both parents are working, planning should be arranged according to their working life, so that the man plays a role in managing the home and raising the children instead of all the issues being on the woman’s shoulders.
He continued: Fathers are the companions and reinforcers of the educational role of mothers and they can establish vitality and happiness among their families.
Hojjat-ul-Islam Mir Murshidi noted: Mothers have different abilities and capacities, and we should not expect all mothers to be equally capable in serving and raising their children.
Emphasizing on choosing the right job according to the capacities of mothers, this professor said: Mothers should be careful in choosing a job so that the characteristics of femininity, motherhood and wife are not forgotten in life because some women only pay attention to the amount of income and do not care about the content, quality of the job and its effect on their health. . In this case, all these should be taken into account in choosing a job, because it has an important effect on the correct upbringing of children.
Referring to the training of parents in the proper upbringing of children, he acknowledged: Passing training classes in the field of life management and proper upbringing of children is very necessary and important. If parents know what spiritual, emotional, material and social needs a child has before birth in the fetal stage, and also what path they should take in raising and meeting their needs after birth until university, so that they can reach their sacred goals in proper upbringing. Their children have helped a lot.
This university professor stated: A child cannot grow and develop as a vehicle, but must be fertilized in a fully prepared space and develop its necessary capabilities to be presented in the society.
Hojjat-ul-Islam Mirmurshidi asked parents to use the websites related to home and family, and by entering the educational websites and benefiting from the available software, to make efforts for the highest quality of education.
